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How Inertia Keeps Us from Making Needed Changes
Inertia can keep us from making needed changes in our life or work. Because of inertia, we can stick with a sub-optimal path, often because it feels safer and easier. According to Isaac Newton’s first law of motion, something at rest will remain at rest, and something in motion will remain in motion, unless it’s acted upon by an external force. It’s often called “the law of inertia.” Think of the amount of fuel and energy it takes for a rocket to blast off. Next, think of a loaded freight train barreling down the tracks and how much energy it
How to Overcome Feelings of Helplessness
As much as we may hate to admit it, we all feel helpless sometimes. Unable to do anything to help ourselves. Powerless in the face of negative events. Failure appears inevitable. Our efforts seem pointless. We’re like Sisyphus rolling the giant boulder up the hill, over and over again. There are of course degrees of helplessness, ranging from the occasional feeling of overwhelm or uncertainty about what to do to something more deep and lasting. Though it may seem foreign and rare, a feeling of helplessness can show up in many instances of our life and work. Maybe our board
Are We More Materialistic Than We’d Like to Admit?
Article Summary: These days, it’s easy to fall into the trap of materialism, which actually makes us less happy. Why that’s the case and what to do about it. +++ These days, it’s easy to get caught up in consumption, possessions, and comfort while neglecting matters of the heart or spirit. Are you caught in the trap of materialism—the belief that having money and possessions is the most important thing in life? Even if you don’t believe that, are you living that way by default? Consider the following: According to a 2019 estimate, the average American adult spends about $18,000
Have Feelings of Entitlement Crept into Your Mindset?
Article Summary: Though it’s hard to admit, we’re more prone to feeling a sense of entitlement than we think. Here’s why and what to do about it. +++ While most of us would agree that we have to work for things we want in life, it may be that certain surreptitious feelings of entitlement have crept into our mindset. In other words, we’re more prone to entitlement than we think. Entitlement is a feeling that we deserve special treatment or privileges—or that something should rightfully be ours. This narcissistic personality trait can come from many sources. It’s influenced by our
Are You Feeling Empty Inside?
Article Summary: Many people feel empty inside, even if it’s hard to admit for some. This article contains the signs and causes of feeling empty—and what to do about it. +++ The feeling may be virtually undetectable, but if we’d pause to notice we may discover an inner emptiness sometimes. A silent question about whether all we’re doing is really worth it. We may be feeling hollow or numb, or living without passion or joy. Are we racing quickly but getting nowhere in a hurry? “Part of the problem… is that everyone is in such a hurry…. People haven’t found
Escaping the Trap of Our Ego
Article Summary: Ego is a problem for all of us. It comes with many related problems, including selfishness, arrogance, self-importance, and mental suffering. How to escape the trap of our ego. +++ There’s a long list of people who have famously been captured by their ego, from celebrities and CEOs to politicians and professional athletes. It’s a well known problem, and one that keeps causing mayhem. “Pride goeth before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” -Proverbs 16:18 But this is a problem for all of us, not just the rich and famous. There’s a long list of related
The Problem with Not Being Clear about Our Values
Article Summary: Many of us get into trouble when we start living and leading in ways that conflict with our values. That usually starts with not knowing what our core values are. +++ Our values are what’s most important to us. What we believe and stand for. Our convictions about what’s most important in life. “Your core values are the deeply held beliefs that authentically describe your soul.” -John C. Maxwell Many of us get into trouble when we start living and leading in ways that conflict with our values. First, we must know what our core values are.
The Problem with Not Being Clear about Our Purpose
Article Summary: Not being clear about our purpose harms us in many ways, affecting our quality of life, relationships, work, leadership, and more. +++ Many of us have a general sense of what we want in life but haven’t taken that further into a clear sense of purpose—of our deeper why. Of all the personal and leadership development practices, purpose tends to be the most difficult for many, in part because of all the myths and misconceptions about purpose. Some people feel what’s been called “purpose anxiety”: distress from not knowing our purpose in life or from not living it.
The Problem with Lacking Clarity in Your Life
Article Summary: Many people aren’t clear about what they want and where they’re going. Lacking clarity is one of the most damaging traps we can fall into. +++ Do you know who you are? What you want? Where you’re going and why? We may have a vague sense of these things but no real clarity. We lack a clear vision that pulls us forward toward its sweet and compelling destination. Meanwhile, we keep our heads down and stay busy as a form of avoidance. Sometimes this situation continues for a very long time, placing us in an extended state of
How to Discover Your Purpose
Article Summary: Many people struggle with finding their purpose. It can be intimidating and confusing. Where to begin? This article clarifies what purpose is and how to discover it. +++ Why are you here? (On the planet, that is.) What’s your purpose? Do you know? Have you thought much about it? Are you living your purpose? Note that we’re asking here about your purpose in life, not the purpose or meaning of life generally. Asking about your purpose is a practical matter, not a philosophical one. Many people struggle with purpose. According to a New York Times article, only about
The Most Common Myths about Purpose
Article Summary: Many people struggle with knowing their purpose. It can be confusing, unclear, and intimidating. Here we bust the most common myths about purpose. +++ Of all the top personal development practices, discovering our personal purpose can be among the most challenging for many of us. It begins with confusion about what purpose is. Our purpose is why we’re here, our reason for being. William Damon, a Stanford University professor and author of The Path to Purpose, defines purpose as “a stable and generalized intention to accomplish something that is at the same time meaningful to the self and
Are You Taking Shortcuts?
Article Summary: These days, we’re under a lot of pressure to move quickly, so it can be tempting to take shortcuts. But that can be a big mistake. +++ These days, we’re under a lot of pressure to move quickly. Things are changing rapidly, so it’s tempting to jump on the fast track. Or try for a quick fix. Facebook’s motto from a few years ago captured it well: “Move fast and break things.” In today’s culture, people expect quick results. We live in an age of instant gratification. We’re used to swiping, and our attention span is shrinking rapidly
Do You Have Limiting Beliefs About Yourself?
Article Summary: Many of us have limiting beliefs that detract from our success and happiness. Here we address where they come from and how to change them. +++ Do you have limiting beliefs about yourself that are holding you back? Chances are that you do, even if you’re highly capable and successful. Most people do, even if they’re not aware of it, and it’s a bigger problem than most people think. Limiting beliefs are judgments about ourselves that restrict us in some way. They prevent us from achieving our aims and from becoming what we want. In essence, they’re stories
Are You Pretending to Be Something You’re Not?
Article Summary: One of the traps we can fall into in life is pretending to be someone or something we’re not. This article addresses why we do it, its consequences, and how to stop doing it so much. +++ One of the traps we can fall into in life is pretending to be someone or something we’re not. We may wear a mask for others, adopt a persona, or impersonate someone we think is more appealing. There are many reasons why we do this. It’s quite common. But it can lead to big problems down the road. Examples of
The Trap of Losing Yourself
These days, will all the pressures and pushes we feel, it can be easy to lose ourselves. We get consumed by events or other people’s priorities, surrendering our agency or initiative. We can lose ourselves so much that we hardly recognize ourselves. Or let our own values, priorities, and aspirations fall by the wayside. We can become accustomed to suppressing our needs, desires, or feelings. Or lose sight of who we really are and what we want in life. We can stop investing in our learning and growth, stop pursuing our dreams and passions, or neglect our inner life so
